Adulting

You can’t really understand adulting better than someone who’s going through it — through that doubtful, perplexing phase. So here I am, a teenager with the heart of a child, stepping into the world of adults.

That’s what growing up is.

The transition.

A heart full of doubts, and a mind filled with memories of the past.

I won’t say that every teenager or soon-to-be adult is deeply depressed or completely lost. Some people have good instincts. Some already know their aim. Everyone is different in their own way. But still — there’s always a common thread, a borderline phase everyone crosses sooner or later:

The doubtful phase. The "can’t figure out what’s going on" phase.

Everyone faces a sudden shift that changes them. Sometimes, you even force yourself to change — to fit in.

Because adulting isn’t always bright and joyous.

It’s full of overthinking and identity crises.

Who am I?

What am I really feeling?

Am I a good person?

Even if many of you have already formed a sense of self, the truth is: identity keeps evolving until your very last breath. We are living beings — and we change.

Then there’s family pressure, society, friends. Or sometimes — the absence of friends. People drift apart.

And on top of that, you carry the weight of expectations.

Your inner child dreamed of you becoming the richest, the happiest.

But your present self is just sitting there, wondering:

Why am I like this?

What should I do next?

How do I make my family, myself, and most importantly, my inner child — proud?

Adulting hits when suddenly, you don’t wear school uniforms anymore. No more lunch boxes, no more daily schedules, no more worrying about tomorrow’s test.

And boom — out of nowhere, you're now “grown up.” You’re 18+.

This change isn’t a curse. It’s natural. Necessary. Unstoppable.

Change is in our nature — we adapt. Humans always have.

But here’s something I believe:

It’s not necessary to change yourself completely.

If you still have a child’s heart — don’t let it die.

That playful, curious, emotional energy?

You can channel it into something beautiful — into optimism, into creativity, into compassion.

It’s never too late to shape your self-esteem, to embrace who you truly are, flaws and all.

Don’t always pressure yourself to be “good enough.”

You are doing good.

Going with the flow isn’t always the answer — but sometimes, it’s what you need.

When you need a hug — say it.

It doesn’t make you weak. It makes you real.

Adulting is the time when hearts break, and tears hide behind fake smiles.

When school friends drift, or leave you with wounds.

When true friends disappear, or when you’ve always been the loner with no real social life.

But in the end — none of that matters as much as how you choose to see your situation.

How you imagine your future.

How you treat yourself.

The road ahead will bring you new people, new bonds, and new opportunities. This world is full of them. But before any of that — take a stand for yourself. Grow.

This phase is not just a test of who stays loyal or empathetic toward you — it’s a test of you, too.

How you treat others.

How you confront your own mistakes.

This is adulting.

The making of you — the real you.

This is when you face the real world, but also begin to create a safe place for your inner child.

Where you can be your authentic self.

Where joy can exist without expectations.

Where trust and healing are possible.

And I trust you.

I know your tears won’t go to waste.

Your hard work will be rewarded.

Best of luck, from me — to you.

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There will be more short articles and poems on this topic.

Because adulting is not a one-time thing — it's a laye red, never-ending experience.

So, are you ready to learn more about this phase?